Hello all! Firstly, let me wish you all a happy holiday season. Don't forget to nurse in a huge line at a crowded retail establishment. Good times for all.
So, on my flight to (from?) the midwest in the fall, I found myself pulling a couple of real stunts with the kiddo, and it made me wonder about all the crazy places moms have nursed and pumped. So I solicited contributions to this list. I'll start with my own:
Nursed: airplane bathroom. This is a little gross, but I was desperate to pee, and kiddo was miserable unless he was on the boob. The flight attendant was impressed.
Pumped: probably the previously discussed multitasking commute. Have also done hotel bathroom (ew) and parked in various interesting places.
Here are some from other moms, with the identifying information deleted or changed:
Patriotic nursing: The National Cathedral, The National Portrait Gallery and the Capitol Building (two boob salute!)
Boobjuice to go please: Airplanes, truck stops, parked at scenic overlooks, and (this sounds like no fun) leaning over the car seat while the car is in motion. Also sounds no fun: pumping in a train bathroom. Ew.
Working Dinner: Break room at work, car at job interview, "on call" room in a hospital during residency, and of course, pumping in the office or bathroom (ugh - crappy employer if you ask me!) Mama S.McD. wins for nursing in her advisor's office when they were discussing finishing her dissertation. Mama C.C. wins the pumping one in this category: the rather nicely appointed Ladies' Lounge at a (restaurant name not disclosed) in the middle of a dinner with clients - that impressed me - I would have been too anxious to let down.
Boobjuice al fresco: In an outdoor mall bathroom, Central Park, on a log resting during a hike, on an over 12,000 ft hike on a Colorado mountain top, Nursing Tent at the Indiana State Fair (go Hoosiers!)
Partyboobs: In a wine bar (mine! heh!), at restaurants, social clubs, an indoor water park.
Training Young Captiatlists: Ikea, Home Depot, Ladies' Lounge at Nordstrom's.
There are more I'm sure - send me your comments! But the takeaway here, ladies, is you should be free to pump and nurse wherever you need to, so please feel assured that another mom has done something weirder, no matter where you're about to put the girls to work. No one would think twice about whipping out a bottle of formula there, and there should be no location penalty for giving your baby the best food possible.
Happy nursing ladies!
Tuesday, December 22, 2009
Sunday, December 13, 2009
How Moms Go Crazy?
It's 2:46 a.m. on Sunday morning. In a quasi-desperate attempt to keep the fridge stocked, I am pumping breastmilk at an hour when only people in their early twenties wearing something sparkly should know what the world looks like. (I am not in my early 20's.) Kiddo has been waking up anywhere from 1-4 in the morning to nurse for a couple weeks (at least) now, which pretty much thwarts my previous pattern of getting up at 4:30 or even 5 to pump a big harvest of sleep-generated milk. Although I *think* the waking has been trending later, I can't really be relied upon to accurately collect data at that hour, and I may be counting two data points as a trend. So I set my alarm for 2:30 to be able to get a good pumping session in before Kiddo wakes up, and consoled myself that I get to go back to bed right afterwards. And whine at you guys, of course!
One trick I have used before when Kiddo wakes up right before my alarm is to try to slake his thirst with just one boob. They're so full at that hour, it usually works, and then I can pump and the other one produces a bunch. The nursed side usually produces a little hind milk which I just toss into the bottle or bag with the larger producing side. But the last few weekdays he has woken up twice, or demanded both sides, or other activities such that I never got to pump. And yesterday I figured I'd better take the chance to catch up on sleep a little rather than pull some crazy stunt like this. I'm remembering the mom I cited in an earlier post who pumped in her airplane bathroom while she piloted a plane in the military... I've still got it easier than that! (Say, I wonder if she'll ever find out about my blog? Hey, pilot mama! You're awesome!)
So you know how we all think our moms are weird in some way or another? I'm starting to understand how mine got that way. Besides this crazy intense love I feel for my kid, which makes me do weird things like sniff the back of his neck while he is smearing banana all over his high chair, I'm starting to think this sleep deprivation is going to be for the loooong haul. Not just those first few months where you're nursing every 90 minutes sometimes, not just the first year, but maybe something is going to keep me from sleeping eight consecutive hours... ever again. This cannot be good for the psyche. I mean, if sleep deprivation were healthy, it wouldn't be an interrogation technique. Say, I wonder if that works on moms?
"Talk, woman! Tell me the location of the secret rebel base!"
"Huh? What's the matter, sweetie, you need a diaper?"
One trick I have used before when Kiddo wakes up right before my alarm is to try to slake his thirst with just one boob. They're so full at that hour, it usually works, and then I can pump and the other one produces a bunch. The nursed side usually produces a little hind milk which I just toss into the bottle or bag with the larger producing side. But the last few weekdays he has woken up twice, or demanded both sides, or other activities such that I never got to pump. And yesterday I figured I'd better take the chance to catch up on sleep a little rather than pull some crazy stunt like this. I'm remembering the mom I cited in an earlier post who pumped in her airplane bathroom while she piloted a plane in the military... I've still got it easier than that! (Say, I wonder if she'll ever find out about my blog? Hey, pilot mama! You're awesome!)
So you know how we all think our moms are weird in some way or another? I'm starting to understand how mine got that way. Besides this crazy intense love I feel for my kid, which makes me do weird things like sniff the back of his neck while he is smearing banana all over his high chair, I'm starting to think this sleep deprivation is going to be for the loooong haul. Not just those first few months where you're nursing every 90 minutes sometimes, not just the first year, but maybe something is going to keep me from sleeping eight consecutive hours... ever again. This cannot be good for the psyche. I mean, if sleep deprivation were healthy, it wouldn't be an interrogation technique. Say, I wonder if that works on moms?
"Talk, woman! Tell me the location of the secret rebel base!"
"Huh? What's the matter, sweetie, you need a diaper?"
Monday, December 7, 2009
Bessie's Dance
I have accumulated some tips and tricks for making pumping as successful as possible, which I have shared with other moms and discovered are not as commonly known as I might have thought. Most of them I got from my Doula and friend, Nancy, who is a wealth of useful information. She's also the one who told me that for pink eye I can put breastmilk in baby's eye - I thought that was nuts but then my pediatrician told me the same thing, and it helped. So I felt bad for ever doubting her. But I digress.
This is a long post, so I'll summarize the steps at the bottom.
Here is a description of one pumping session. I'll do my whole work day schedule another time. Note that all the usual disclaimers apply - I am NOT a lactation consultant or educator, I do NOT know what will work best for any individual mom, and I will NOT be held responsible for any ill effects from employing these techniques (although they're all pretty mild, hard to imagine what they would be). YOU are the momma, you know best what works for you and your little bundle of joy, and you are woman enough to make that decision without my help. This is just a description of what worked for me, which I share in the hopes that it will help other moms too.
The key to getting good results when pumping is to RELAX. The pump does not get as much as the baby by a long shot, and if you are all tense, it ain't gonna happen. So this means relaxing before you start and distraction while it's running. So I always pump at the computer, although in front of the TV would work. I have pumped at like 3:30 in the morning a couple times, so I read a book, which is less likely to make me unable to fall back asleep than the shiny glowing screen.
So. First step is to wash my hands. Then get all the gear together and make sure I'm going to be comfortable. So obviously that's Bessie the Breastpump, clean parts for same, and my boobs. A glass of water is totally key, as all breastfeeding moms will recall. I often also have a snack handy, or some tea, or whatever I'm noshing on at that moment. I also make sure my office door is locked and the curtains are closed, or that I've got a blanket nearby (home) in case I get chilly.
Next I take a moment to breathe. It helps me to look at my hands, palms up, and take a few slow, deep breaths. I'm not someone who can meditate with my eyes closed - it doesn't ground me, it just sets my brain free to race around at an even more manic pace. But looking at my hands works well for me - sort of reminds me, "I'm here, now." And deep breathing, of course, as we little yoginis are all wont to do. This may totally not work for you, so if it doesn't, try something else - perhaps a prayer, or give yourself a little one minute neck rub. Just keep it positive. "Thank you Lord for the amazing gift of the ability to nourish my adorable child," as opposed to, "Please let me get more milk this time or I'll just cry." Again, relaxing is key.
Then I get all set up. I keep a fleece jacket on my chair at work, so if I wore something that really needs to be removed for pumping, I can just slip into that to keep warm. Once the girls are free of their fabric housing, I do a little breast massage. This is also a Nancy tip, although I think I also read it in one of my books. So I gently place my fingers on the breasts below the nipples and do little circles. Then outside of the nipples, then inside, then above. Gently enough to be comfortable, firmly enough to stimulate the milk ducts. If I'm lucky enough to have slept through the night and be pumping before nursing Kiddo, then I am somewhat engorged and massage even more gently. I have to reach across with opposite arm, one side at a time, for a couple of the positions. I make sure to make the circles slow (it's a massage, not a sports rub-down) and count that I do at least eight per position - twelve is better.
Next is lube (yet another Nancy tip!). Pumping on dry skin is very uncomfortable. I am using Motherlove Diaper rash and Thrush ointment, but I have also used Nipple Butter or just water. I think the water is hardest to get where you want it and doesn't have the staying power of a lubricant. Plain olive oil might work too. Lanolin doesn't work as well, is harder to get off the pump parts, and is a no-no if you are combatting thrush. The amount can be a little tricky - enough to make the skin slip easily in and out of the breastshields, but not too much or the shields will slip around too easily and the nipple won't stay centered. You can wipe some off with a tissue if needed.
I use a hands-free pumping band, and if you are pumping more than occasionally, I highly recommend one. The one I like best is the "Made by Moms Pumping Band," but there may be other good ones out there. I think La Leche League or someone makes a "pumping bra," which might be good. I tried a pumping "bustier," which was crap. Since it had no straps, there was almost nothing but faith to hold up the apparatus. So I ended up using one hand to hold up the bustier, so it was more of a "one hand pumping bustier." Getting the nipple shields set up well with the pumping band took some practice. One trick is to press them gently into the breast as you are placing them, and see if the nipple points straight into the tube. I used to use a mirror, that helps too. And then it's time to hook up the rest of the pump to the nipple shields and start the pump. I watch the first few cycles to make sure I have the nipples placed well in the shields, and often have to make some sort of adjustment. It's worth the hassle of re-placing the shields a few times to make sure you've got a good placement.
Okay, now I'm pumping! This is the point at which it might help to look at a picture of the baby, or listen to baby's cry. I got my husband to email me an mp3 of Kiddo crying when I first got back to work, to help with let down. (Remember when you learned that your boobs could hear, because whenever the baby cried your milk let down?) But after a few moments of adoring, I find it best to get back to work, or read email, or something totally unrelated. The best way to get frustrated with pumping breastmilk is to sit and watch the pump bottles and fret over each drop that does or doesn't appear. I set a timer for ten minutes and don't look (or almost don't look) again until it goes off.
When the timer goes off, I look to see if milk is still coming out. I usually gently massage the breasts to see if there's more waiting to come out. I don't think this is officially endorsed by the lactation types, or that one is supposed to do breast compression rather than what I do, which is gently stroke from chest towards nipple. So I'm not recommending that - for all I know I'm doing something detrimental (seems unlikely?) but that's what I do and it helps. If I get more than a drop or two, I set the timer for maybe three more minutes and then do it again. When I don't get any more or only a drop or two, I let the pump go two or three more minutes and then I'm done. At any rate I rarely go over 20 minutes and it's usually more like 15.
After I'm done, the first priority is to secure the milk. I've spilled milk after pumping, and it's heartbreaking. So I take the band and shields off, and set the pump going with just the tubes attached to dry them out, and then move straight to securing the milk. I use milk storage bags at work, and sometimes at home, although sometimes I just combine the milk into one of the bottles (if I'm lucky enough to get more than four ounces I'll use both) and put a sticky note with the date on it and stick it in the fridge. If I'm using the bags, I test to be sure I've gotten it sealed sightly by gently squeezing the bag to see if air or milk comes out the top. I got breastmilk all over my desk this way once (and only once!). But better that then the shared work fridge!
One is probably supposed to wash out the pump parts with hot water and soap after each usage. When I'm pumping at work, I just rinse out with water, shake them out a bit, and put them loose in the top of my pump bag on a paper towel to air dry. This results in needing to dry them out a little with a tissue before the next session, but less than if I try to get them all the way dry with a paper towel right after washing them. I am not advocating just rinsing - this is a decision you'll have to make for yourself. I also boil my pump parts after each day of use, but that's a topic for another post.
So there you have it!
As promised, here's a summary of the steps above:
Wash hands
Collect equipment, water, snacks, etc.
(Wash hands again if you did anything funky like butter your toast while collecting equipment)
RELAX
Massage
Lube
Attach pump, turn on, correct placement if necessary
Relax again, adore baby as inspiration for let down
Distraction!
Check if done yet
Pump a few minutes past "dry"
Secure milk
Clean up
One follow up note - I used to worry a lot about not pumping too close to when Kiddo might want to nurse again. This made pumping an even bigger logistical nightmare. Then a lactation consultant assured me that, since the baby is so much more effective at extracting milk than the pump, one's breasts really only need a quick break after pumping before nursing. By the time all the milk storage and cleanup is done, I've gone to the bathroom, and refilled my water glass, the girls are ready to go. Kiddo is wise to this now and sometimes complains that the milk doesn't come out as fast as at 4 in the morning when I'm engorged and haven't nursed or pumped in hours. But he does get enough to fill his tummy. Switching back and forth a bit can help too.
Happy pumping ladies!!!
This is a long post, so I'll summarize the steps at the bottom.
Here is a description of one pumping session. I'll do my whole work day schedule another time. Note that all the usual disclaimers apply - I am NOT a lactation consultant or educator, I do NOT know what will work best for any individual mom, and I will NOT be held responsible for any ill effects from employing these techniques (although they're all pretty mild, hard to imagine what they would be). YOU are the momma, you know best what works for you and your little bundle of joy, and you are woman enough to make that decision without my help. This is just a description of what worked for me, which I share in the hopes that it will help other moms too.
The key to getting good results when pumping is to RELAX. The pump does not get as much as the baby by a long shot, and if you are all tense, it ain't gonna happen. So this means relaxing before you start and distraction while it's running. So I always pump at the computer, although in front of the TV would work. I have pumped at like 3:30 in the morning a couple times, so I read a book, which is less likely to make me unable to fall back asleep than the shiny glowing screen.
So. First step is to wash my hands. Then get all the gear together and make sure I'm going to be comfortable. So obviously that's Bessie the Breastpump, clean parts for same, and my boobs. A glass of water is totally key, as all breastfeeding moms will recall. I often also have a snack handy, or some tea, or whatever I'm noshing on at that moment. I also make sure my office door is locked and the curtains are closed, or that I've got a blanket nearby (home) in case I get chilly.
Next I take a moment to breathe. It helps me to look at my hands, palms up, and take a few slow, deep breaths. I'm not someone who can meditate with my eyes closed - it doesn't ground me, it just sets my brain free to race around at an even more manic pace. But looking at my hands works well for me - sort of reminds me, "I'm here, now." And deep breathing, of course, as we little yoginis are all wont to do. This may totally not work for you, so if it doesn't, try something else - perhaps a prayer, or give yourself a little one minute neck rub. Just keep it positive. "Thank you Lord for the amazing gift of the ability to nourish my adorable child," as opposed to, "Please let me get more milk this time or I'll just cry." Again, relaxing is key.
Then I get all set up. I keep a fleece jacket on my chair at work, so if I wore something that really needs to be removed for pumping, I can just slip into that to keep warm. Once the girls are free of their fabric housing, I do a little breast massage. This is also a Nancy tip, although I think I also read it in one of my books. So I gently place my fingers on the breasts below the nipples and do little circles. Then outside of the nipples, then inside, then above. Gently enough to be comfortable, firmly enough to stimulate the milk ducts. If I'm lucky enough to have slept through the night and be pumping before nursing Kiddo, then I am somewhat engorged and massage even more gently. I have to reach across with opposite arm, one side at a time, for a couple of the positions. I make sure to make the circles slow (it's a massage, not a sports rub-down) and count that I do at least eight per position - twelve is better.
Next is lube (yet another Nancy tip!). Pumping on dry skin is very uncomfortable. I am using Motherlove Diaper rash and Thrush ointment, but I have also used Nipple Butter or just water. I think the water is hardest to get where you want it and doesn't have the staying power of a lubricant. Plain olive oil might work too. Lanolin doesn't work as well, is harder to get off the pump parts, and is a no-no if you are combatting thrush. The amount can be a little tricky - enough to make the skin slip easily in and out of the breastshields, but not too much or the shields will slip around too easily and the nipple won't stay centered. You can wipe some off with a tissue if needed.
I use a hands-free pumping band, and if you are pumping more than occasionally, I highly recommend one. The one I like best is the "Made by Moms Pumping Band," but there may be other good ones out there. I think La Leche League or someone makes a "pumping bra," which might be good. I tried a pumping "bustier," which was crap. Since it had no straps, there was almost nothing but faith to hold up the apparatus. So I ended up using one hand to hold up the bustier, so it was more of a "one hand pumping bustier." Getting the nipple shields set up well with the pumping band took some practice. One trick is to press them gently into the breast as you are placing them, and see if the nipple points straight into the tube. I used to use a mirror, that helps too. And then it's time to hook up the rest of the pump to the nipple shields and start the pump. I watch the first few cycles to make sure I have the nipples placed well in the shields, and often have to make some sort of adjustment. It's worth the hassle of re-placing the shields a few times to make sure you've got a good placement.
Okay, now I'm pumping! This is the point at which it might help to look at a picture of the baby, or listen to baby's cry. I got my husband to email me an mp3 of Kiddo crying when I first got back to work, to help with let down. (Remember when you learned that your boobs could hear, because whenever the baby cried your milk let down?) But after a few moments of adoring, I find it best to get back to work, or read email, or something totally unrelated. The best way to get frustrated with pumping breastmilk is to sit and watch the pump bottles and fret over each drop that does or doesn't appear. I set a timer for ten minutes and don't look (or almost don't look) again until it goes off.
When the timer goes off, I look to see if milk is still coming out. I usually gently massage the breasts to see if there's more waiting to come out. I don't think this is officially endorsed by the lactation types, or that one is supposed to do breast compression rather than what I do, which is gently stroke from chest towards nipple. So I'm not recommending that - for all I know I'm doing something detrimental (seems unlikely?) but that's what I do and it helps. If I get more than a drop or two, I set the timer for maybe three more minutes and then do it again. When I don't get any more or only a drop or two, I let the pump go two or three more minutes and then I'm done. At any rate I rarely go over 20 minutes and it's usually more like 15.
After I'm done, the first priority is to secure the milk. I've spilled milk after pumping, and it's heartbreaking. So I take the band and shields off, and set the pump going with just the tubes attached to dry them out, and then move straight to securing the milk. I use milk storage bags at work, and sometimes at home, although sometimes I just combine the milk into one of the bottles (if I'm lucky enough to get more than four ounces I'll use both) and put a sticky note with the date on it and stick it in the fridge. If I'm using the bags, I test to be sure I've gotten it sealed sightly by gently squeezing the bag to see if air or milk comes out the top. I got breastmilk all over my desk this way once (and only once!). But better that then the shared work fridge!
One is probably supposed to wash out the pump parts with hot water and soap after each usage. When I'm pumping at work, I just rinse out with water, shake them out a bit, and put them loose in the top of my pump bag on a paper towel to air dry. This results in needing to dry them out a little with a tissue before the next session, but less than if I try to get them all the way dry with a paper towel right after washing them. I am not advocating just rinsing - this is a decision you'll have to make for yourself. I also boil my pump parts after each day of use, but that's a topic for another post.
So there you have it!
As promised, here's a summary of the steps above:
Wash hands
Collect equipment, water, snacks, etc.
(Wash hands again if you did anything funky like butter your toast while collecting equipment)
RELAX
Massage
Lube
Attach pump, turn on, correct placement if necessary
Relax again, adore baby as inspiration for let down
Distraction!
Check if done yet
Pump a few minutes past "dry"
Secure milk
Clean up
One follow up note - I used to worry a lot about not pumping too close to when Kiddo might want to nurse again. This made pumping an even bigger logistical nightmare. Then a lactation consultant assured me that, since the baby is so much more effective at extracting milk than the pump, one's breasts really only need a quick break after pumping before nursing. By the time all the milk storage and cleanup is done, I've gone to the bathroom, and refilled my water glass, the girls are ready to go. Kiddo is wise to this now and sometimes complains that the milk doesn't come out as fast as at 4 in the morning when I'm engorged and haven't nursed or pumped in hours. But he does get enough to fill his tummy. Switching back and forth a bit can help too.
Happy pumping ladies!!!
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